The DRAMA! den - drop your problems, rants, etc. in here - Can we talk? Forum

Topic: The DRAMA! den - drop your problems, rants, etc. in here

The chat thread has been seeing a lot of action, which is good. However, some of us are having a hard time and need a place to talk about stuff without worrying about the impact our conversations are having on others. Tell us about your problems in here, and let's be lighthearted in the chat thread.

Rant away - tell us about stuff that annoys you! Tell us about those niggly little things that make you want to SCREAM!!

This is the thread for telling us about stuff that bothers or upsets you in general - tell us about it. We probably feel the same way.

Agony aunts are welcome too.

#1 Dec 20th 2007, 3:40pm . Edited Dec 21st 2007, 7:19am

Okay then, I'll take first post.

I was asked to moderate another writer's forum, and I'm still a mod there now. Although it was for NaNoWriMo, it's still getting some traffic, because those who were using it then are using it now. Anyway, *'scuse me while I bleach my brain* this author popped up and asked for a silly song to use in a fanfic story. I can't believe I thought of this so quickly... "Agadoo" by Black Lace. Arrrrgh! One of the most annoying disco songs of the Eighties. Nooo! I can't get the wretched thing out of my head! T.T

#2 Dec 20th 2007, 3:51pm

And if that's not bad enough, Richard is teasing me about it, the toad!

Hold a chicken in the air, stick a deckchair up your nose...

Gah! Make it stop!!

#3 Dec 20th 2007, 4:04pm . Edited Dec 20th 2007, 4:04pm

Replace it with Scooter. Search out their songs on Youtube. Personally, I recommend 'How much is the Fish?'.

#4 Dec 20th 2007, 4:21pm

Indeed. *Chuckle* So what annoys you, Chaos?

#5 Dec 20th 2007, 4:26pm

Ummm....

#6 Dec 20th 2007, 7:35pm

O.o

Go on...

#7 Dec 21st 2007, 2:40am

ok, I would like to complain about being sick.

#8 Dec 21st 2007, 5:16pm

ok, I would like to complain about being sick.

...not that you need permission to do so, but go ahead.

#9 Dec 21st 2007, 8:26pm

Do I have the freedom to be as whiny and grossly-detailed as I wish?

#10 Dec 21st 2007, 8:28pm

....If Wendy didn't want people being gross, then she shouldn't have put up this thread now should she? ^_^

#11 Dec 23rd 2007, 1:38pm

Well, I'm very upset, because I literally got NO sleep last night, and I can't even move without feeling horrible.

#12 Dec 23rd 2007, 1:45pm

Ooooh, not fun. Is your tum still sore? Can you get a hold of your dad's Blackberry?

#13 Dec 23rd 2007, 3:28pm

Sore is an understatement. I will try to get a hold of the blackberry. I just had dinner, and let me say I don't know how much longer I can hold onto it.

#14 Dec 23rd 2007, 5:46pm

Rowena DeVandal

Ok, so i'm really more of a semi-lurker here (Hi Wendy!), but i do read here quite a bit, even if i'm not saying anything...but to make a long story short, I HAVE A RANT!

So there's some doucherocket that decided to flame me a few days ago...i have no idea who, since it was an unsigned review, but i responded to it in my profile and also told my fiance' (Mary Sue's Assassin for those who don't know) about it...he took it upon himself to respond in a flame of his own...i also posted the flame and a bit of a rant about it on the Fireplace, because where else to rant about something like that? ;)

Well, the little troll flamed me again on the same story, had to use a different chapter, anonymously again...again, i posted in the Fireplace with the statement "this person seems to be following me closely"...let me say first off that i spoke about this NOWHERE ELSE...i also deleted the second review, because i didn't want it cluttering up my review box...at any rate, this person flamed me yet again and made a statement much like "don't flatter yourself, thinking i'm following you close"...at that point, i went beyond **...(much thanks to Maiafay for both the con-crit and her response to the little troll ::cheer::).

See, i could have cared less if this idiot had chosen to flame the story...but i get the distinct impression that these were revenge flames on behalf of another author that i left some very long and involved harsh con-crit...i don't think the author and the troll are the same person, because their communication styles are completely different...there's also the fact that the author and i worked out our differences via PM's weeks ago...obviously, the troll didn't know about this and that's how all of this began...

So, i did the only thing i could think of, since the troll doesn't have the stones to review while signed in...i disabled anonymous reviews for the first time since halfway through my first posted story...i also issued a challenge to the troll on the Fireplace, saying that if they have something to say to me, they can say it to me under their own name...if they do it under a sockpuppet account, they are beyond cowardly and not worth my time...if there's one thing i can honestly say, it's that i've always left reviews, from glowing to flames, under this account...i figure if i have the guts to flame someone, i have the guts to face the music later...

Now, if this troll really was the author in question, i wouldn't be so upset about this...but as i said, i really don't think it's her...it's someone else who is a fan of hers that's trying to start some kind of war with me, but i'm really not interested in fighting...i stand by every word i put in those reviews and, by our own agreement, i won't review her again unless she degenerates so badly that a flame is all that i have left...i'm seriously hoping that the idiot comes back, sockpuppet or no, just so i have someone to point to...and i really wouldn't be nearly as upset if they'd bothered to flame the story, but all they did was attack me personally...which, i know, is the textbook definition of a flame, but still...at least when i con-critted the story that i think caused all of this, i confined my statements to the story and never made any attacks on the author...

Man, people just suck...

#15 Dec 24th 2007, 1:15am

People are strange. Some just live for conflict, and they have nothing better to do than to initiate it with people online (whom they know they'll never meet in person.)

#16 Dec 24th 2007, 8:51am

You don't say! As Rowena and others have said, "Grow a pair and fight your own battles." Sometimes it is better to walk away from another person's fight than to get involved, particularly when you're trying to get revenge instead of resolving the problem.

Hmm, why can I not stand over-emotional people?! Because they are too busy riding the rollercoaster of their feelings to reason or to be rational? Yeah, that's why! Have lived with people like that, so I tend to come across as Mrs Spock a lot... X[]

I can also be insensitive sometimes, but that's another story...

You have friends here, Rowena. :)

#17 Dec 24th 2007, 9:07am . Edited Dec 24th 2007, 9:08am

I agree that sometimes people can be overly emotional and that clouds their judgement and higher reason.

I do, however, think that sometimes people have reason to be overly emotional.

For example, I was flamed on Mugglenet simply because someone found out I was Jewish, which of course caused me to flip on those idiots.

#18 Dec 24th 2007, 9:14am

That's not being over-emotional - that's getting mad at gimps!

How dare they pick on my Nat??!

ROAR!!

#19 Dec 24th 2007, 9:20am

That seems to be a fad lately...

I would like to complain about the fact that I owe Amy 100 bucks.

#20 Dec 24th 2007, 9:21am

How can you get her to owe you a hundred bucks?

#21 Dec 24th 2007, 10:21am

On dad's blackberry. No way she'll owe me 100 bucks feasibly. After the plane ride, I owed her 120...so much for shopping...

#22 Dec 24th 2007, 8:03pm

How's your tum?

#23 Dec 25th 2007, 5:17am

It's still a little unsettled. I'm only having incidents about 4 times a day now though.

#24 Dec 25th 2007, 10:32am

Get plenty of liquid down you, love.

I'm thinking of you... :)

#25 Dec 25th 2007, 12:54pm

Aww, that's so sweet. Don't worry about me, though. I'm only owing my sister another 40 bucks now. Another incident.

#26 Dec 25th 2007, 2:02pm

Leave paying back your sister for as long as possible, then refuse. Let her tell your parents, then you can tell them about the blackmail, and how much you owe her. Checkmate!!

#27 Dec 26th 2007, 2:28am

That won't really work. I'm getting more and more worried, as I don't seem to be getting any better. It's almost as if anything that goes down my esophagus immediately irritates my stomach and is rejected. Take this morning, for example, when I attempted to have some pepto bismol...boy, that was a pink mess...

#28 Dec 26th 2007, 1:44pm

Why can you not tell your parents that you're ill? You are in Florida now - it's not as if they are going to send you away. It's illogical not to ask for help when you need it.

#29 Dec 26th 2007, 3:24pm

There's no point- it's not like they can do anything. I don't want to ruin the vacation. Besides, the only cause of worry is my blood sugars going wacko,and I can deal with that. I'm off to dinner...

#30 Dec 26th 2007, 4:05pm

They can take you to a doctor, Nat. They can get you some meds. If I were you, I would go to them at once and tell them I was feeling nauseous all the time and couldn't keep food down. I would also say I didn't want to ruin the vacation. Ending up in hospital will ruin the vacation - going to a doctor now and sorting it out before it gets to be a bigger problem is wise. You worry too much! Be wise!

I bet it only takes a couple of pills to put the situation right. There's only one way to find out. Besides, you are not responsible for the vacation, they are. I fail to see how getting some proper treatment for your illness would spoil anything. You would be better for a start. Talk to them about your worries before you tell them you are ill, if that will help. This has gone on for too long now - be brave and get the help you need. If anyone gives you a hard time for asking for help when you need it, that person is officially a jerk!!

#31 Dec 26th 2007, 4:12pm

I'm going to the doctor tomorrow. I was so sick after dinner that I had to tell them (the details are so gross, I don't think you want me to post them- PM me for details, which I'm fine with sharing). They were mad at me because they have to waste sunshine time taking me and they'll have to pay for it (health care is free in canada) so I'm thinking I'll just tell them I'm fine tomorrow. I'm feeling pukey again so I suppose I'll go now

#32 Dec 26th 2007, 7:02pm

Saber Apricot

Ooh, good luck with the doctor. Hopefully your diet won't be restricted too much. Sometimes people have to clean up their diet a whole bunch when they have stomach problems. A past roommate developed stomach ulcers from drinking too much and eating spicy woods (the too few times she did eat), so of course she had to change her diet to simpler foods.

#33 Dec 26th 2007, 11:27pm

Lecture: you will tell them you need the doctor tomorrow and that's final!// End lecture.

Seriously, Nat, you need to get the help you need, however selfish they want to be. Forget their sunshine time - they can get back to baking their butts when you have got your meds. I can't believe these people are so selfish - I broke my ankle while on holiday, and I was taken to hospital, no messing about. Got my foot in a cast, and finished the holiday on crutches.

#34 Dec 27th 2007, 12:49pm

Maiafay

See a doctor and tell whomever you're with to stop being so selfish. You know, how about make a big ole mess in the hallway when you think you're going to be sick; maybe that will make them see reason. Nothing like a public display of puke to put things in perspective.

On another note, I gave concrit yesterday, and the fanbrat removed her story. I never told her to remove it...*eyeroll*

I'm a firm believer in revising the original post; that way there's no loss of reviews or hits. A National Treasure Mepreg (*shudder*, sorry, personal ick, no offense) story was sporked on LJ fanfictants and the main issues with it were the OOCness, the use of the word "pools" to describe eyes. Yes, eyes. The fact she made thirty-somethings act fifteen says much and her attitude on chapter seven in response to a few vaguely put concrits was enough to irk me into a general "grow up, if you don't want people to say something to help you improve, then don't post publicly", review.

I gave her two, the second after I read her little screaming AN telling everyone who's telling her to stop using pools for eyes to F-off and she's not going to continue the story if everyone doesn't leave her alone. (Yeah, big loss).

Well, I replied to the fanficrant entry that I left a review, and I get someone telling me later that Little Miss Pools removed her fic. I cannot remember her PN, but I know she has at least sixty god-awful stories in various fandoms, and her name starts with a Kanu-something. Who knows. I want to PM the twit, but now my original review is gone.

Pft. Figures.

#35 Dec 27th 2007, 3:39pm

She's clearly one of those dingbats who wants to be worshipped, otherwise she thinks it's a flame! Grr! She should be grateful you gave her your time, dear.

#36 Dec 27th 2007, 4:00pm

Saber Apricot

On another note, I gave concrit yesterday, and the fanbrat removed her story. I never told her to remove it...*eyeroll*

Pft. Figures.

What a pain. I really don't like people taking down their fics at the first sign of concrit and/or flames. I think it kind of makes having reviewed it pointless.

#37 Dec 27th 2007, 7:11pm

Hey all, Nat here. I'll live. I made the mistake of eating breakfast this morning and was horribly, violently ill in the doctor's office. Turns out I have some weird intestinal infection and I'll be bedridden and pukey for a while. I'm thinking of starting a thread for people to share their illness stories.

#38 Dec 27th 2007, 7:50pm

Hi Nat,

am so glad you went to the doctor's. So you got some antibiotics or similar, and now you're on the mend. Your thread idea is a good one - current illness stories can go here, and old illness stories can go in your new thread. I was SO accident prone when I was a kid...

Anyway, glad you're getting better. :)

#39 Dec 28th 2007, 10:44am

I finally have something to rant about.

Not that it's a good thing.

I was talking on a forum on another website, and we started a debate on whether dolphins were fish or mammals. I knew there were two different dolphins, but I was bored, so I played devils advocate and went with the fish approach (I was talking about the actual fish). But, the debate got messy, so I confessed to just being a devils advocate, and tried to stop it. Unfortunately, people started going off on me. I thought they were my friends, too (We had over 1,700 pages and I was there since page 160.), but in the end, I had to leave, because it was getting really unbearable.

Than, I made another account on the website so I could still look over it (because I did leave a few friends behind0 and I saw their responses. I was pretty cruel. One of them celebrated, and one just said I was a pathetic liar and was just playing the pity card.

At that point, I thought maybe if enough people wanted me back, it would be okay, but their responses just crushed me.

T.T

I need a hug, now.

(I thought there would be a big response, like when another person left, but I didn't take into consideration that it was me and another person who got everyone together so we could get the other person back, and the other person told me to wait and let them cool off before coming back. I can't exactly do that, anymore. That would prove them right.)

#40 Dec 28th 2007, 11:49am

Aw, Wolf! :( Sad to hear that people mistreated you. We are sensible people here, so we won't. It's no loss if those people weren't either friendly enough or sensible enough to either argue intelligently or to keep their cool. I mean, flipping out over whether a dolphin is a fish or a mammal? Wikipedia, anyone? Sorted!

Rant: I can't be dealing with people who are too dratted emotional to be sensible!! Sensible people only, please. Emos out!!// end rant.

Ah, that feels better.

*Hugs Wolf*

#41 Dec 28th 2007, 12:25pm

T.T

I know I shouldn't be upset, but I really loved that little community. We were even planning on getting it put on the memorable threads list.

::hugs back::

The only good news is I know they make no sense, and have the persuasion skills of toddlers (their tactic: Ignre facts presented and insist that what they believe is true.).

Well, I have two people on that forum that I still would like to talk to (one person who wasn't there, and the person who stood up for me), so that's still good.

[/rant]

What happened to encourage the anti-emo thing?

#42 Dec 28th 2007, 12:43pm

Those people on your "nice little community." I was trying to be encouraging O.o

Never mind. I suppose you can contact the nicer people and start another forum or something...

#43 Dec 28th 2007, 1:08pm

Or, I could joke around with my friend who's not feeling well.

(seeing as we became close friends after my dad diagnosed her with appendicitus, it's a good occasion)

But, they are not emo, they are overly bright. So I didn't et it. (that or my brain is being slow)

Thanks for the thought, though!

#44 Dec 28th 2007, 1:29pm

You're welcome. I get annoyed when I hear of people being mistreated and shouted down. Therefore, I was annoyed with those people you told us about, who mistreated you on that forum.

Your friend would appreciate hearing from you, as you would provide a welcome distraction from feeling ill.

#45 Dec 28th 2007, 1:51pm

Yeah, now I need to think of what to send.

::just came back from walking the dogs::

#46 Dec 28th 2007, 2:27pm

Hi, nat here.

Day 1 of hell: I spend the entire day sick in bed while my family has fun. Unfortunately the side effects of the meds make it worse before it gets better. If you'll believe it, I've puked once while typing this. I'm doing it on a cell, so it's taking forever.

#47 Dec 28th 2007, 2:29pm

Yeah, now I need to think of what to send.

Rubberchicken.com has some funny e-cards. You could send her the link and she will have something to laugh at...

This day is worse than the others? Oh dear! Erm, what about distracting yourself with a funny site like rubberchicken.com? There are cartoon sites with comic strips on and youtube usually has something funny on. If you like cute, kittenwar.com has the cutest kitties bar none. There's also a puppywar.com. The war is where you vote for the cutest pet... *turns to mush*

#48 Dec 28th 2007, 2:34pm . Edited Dec 28th 2007, 2:37pm

Wendy- good idea, I'll look at that.

Nat- Ah, that's no fun. I hope those meds kick into phase two soon!

#49 Dec 28th 2007, 2:35pm