A/n: hey guy's these is chapter 2 these is kinda of like what sakura wrote in her first chapter of her book called " a dating guide for new dating people" (have a better name let me know)
Ch.1 of sakura's book
Ok say the phone rings, and you ignore it. But then your mother appears at the door of your bedroom to say that the call is for you. You head for the phone, have a brief conversation with the person on the other end, managing to sound fairly cool all the while, hang up the phone – and let out a yell that brings your parents running to find out what has happened. And what has happened is this: you have just been invited out on your first real date. Chances are that the person on the other end of the line, who was trying to sound equally cool about the whole matter, is also feeling elated and excited. This may be his or her first date, too.
An entire new world has just opened up to you – the world of dating. But now that it is about happen – this thing that you have fantasized about and spent hours talking about with your friends – you may find yourself feeling more than a little scared and curious. You know, or think you know, what dating is. Boys and girls go out together, start romantic relationships, sometimes go steady and sometimes play the field, break up, find new people to love. And start the whole process all over again. But you are wondering what will happen to you, now that you have started dating.
There are as many different answers as there are different ways to date. Two people may meet in junior high school, date each other steadily throughout high school, and get married a few weeks after graduation. Others date many people throughout their teen years and go through a series of not-very-serious or even fleeting relationships. Some people date only rarely or not at all during their teens. Others date one person exclusively for several months or even a year or longer, and then move on to another very serious relationship. Obviously, dating means different things to different people, but there are also some qualities of dating that are common to everyone's experience.
For one thing, dating is a learning experience which one opens a whole new world for you. It is a period of expansion socially and a period of testing new ideas and thoughts. Your circle of friends will grow as you meet new people through the persons you date. And it helps to keep in mind that dating is a learning experience for the people whom you date, too. You will do something silly occasionally, and so will your date – that's all part of learning how to get along in social situations.
Dating is, more than anything else you will ever undertake, a period of trial and error. You date one kind of person and then may turn around and date an entirely different kind of person the next time.
Dating relationships during your teen years are not especially permanent – nor are they meant to be. Obviously, there are exceptions – the couple that were childhood sweethearts or who marry without ever having dated anyone else – but for most teens, the dating years are a period of "trying on" people, deciding which ones fit, and rejecting the ones that don't. And while the idea of rejecting someone – may be painful, that is still part of what dating is all about. When you date, too, you expand and test your values: develop some new ones, reject some old ones, polish and keep other old ones.
In a very real sense, dating is a rehearsal for marriage. Oh, you probably won't consider marrying every person you date, at least not in your early teens. But the process of dating – learning how to socialize with the opposite sex, figuring out what kind of person suits you best – is a dress rehearsal for the marriage relationship.
Dating changes with each generation. Your grandparents called dating "courting," "spooning," or "mashing." The woman your grandfather called his "sweetheart," teens only a few years ago referred to as "my main squeeze," although there is a lot of talk today about the level of physical intimacy in teen relationships, courting couples in colonial times used to "bundle," or share the same bed. Of course, they were expected to remain fully clothed, and a bed board or bolster was placed between them. Sometimes the girls' ankles were tied together or both persons' bodies were wrapped in tight garments. The object of bundling was to let people court, and nothing more, on a cold night in homes without central heating.
In Edwardian times, young men gave river parties where couples whiled away an afternoon in rented gondolas on a local lake. The boys got to show off their physical prowess and navigation skills, but most of all, the couples got some privacy.
Before there were cars, couples sat on staircases to "talk" with one another. Hansom cabs and bicycles also provided some measure of privacy. Women who were otherwise given to little physical exertion suddenly became strong enough to indulge in long afternoons of bicycling.
The fact that dating changes from generation to generation can cause you problems with other members of your family, who may sometimes forget what it is to be young and in love. Or they may remember, and keep an even closer eye on you as a result. One thing is certain: when you start to date, you will have to see your parents in a new light. You will also have to learn how to treat the people whom you date. And you, too, dating is a process, and there are some rules and responsibilities that go along with it. Knowing what they are will make everything go a little more smoothly.
The answers to your questions about dating and relationships are the subject of this book. You will learn how to tell whether or not you are ready to start dating – and what it means if you are not. You will learn how to find someone to date – and how to tell if someone is really right for you. You will learn how to juggle your new social life, how to handle single dates, double dates, blind dates, parties, and those big romantic evenings that come along a couple of times a year.
You will also learn about the serious side of dating – how to handle the responsibilities and problems that inevitably occur. How do you cope with sex? Alcohol? Drugs? How do you meet you parents' standards and still manage to run your own life? How much of your new life is private and belongs to you alone?
Special chapters for boys and girls only will give you the inside scoop on the opposite sex – what they're really like, what they want in someone they date, how to get along with each other.
When you finish this book, you will know everything you need to know to make your teen dating experiences as rewarding and fun as they can be. Welcome to the world of dating.
By: sakura harono
A/n: please review I would love you to do that and I hope you like it I will get that next chapter up as soon as possible.