AN: Also in FictionPress under the pen name Lovefool72
Disclaimer: I do not own Supernatural or any of the characters, or the beginning and end quotes of this story from Dorothy Thompson and Anne Sexton.
''Children want to feel instinctively that their fater is behind them as solid
as a mountain, but, like a mountain, is something to look up to.''
Five. There are five stages of grief and each one grabs onto you and hangs on like a tix, feeding off your misery. Sometimes people work through the five stages in a month, five weeks, five months, a year maybe. Others are different. You remember it took you years to work through the five stages of grief and you remember each stage like it was yesterday...
Part One, Denial: The Destruction You Left Behind
Things don't have to change that much, you tell yourself. So what if you don't see him everyday, you see him every other weekend, that's just as good. No change at all really. It's not even a big deal. Maybe you won't fight as much this way.
It really is better this way. It's better that the visits stopped, because they were too awkward and it was weird saying goodbye when all you really wanted to say was ''When are you coming home?'' Because he will come home. Things like this happen to other people, they don't happen to you. Your life is normal, completely normal. Nothing is wrong, because he'll come home, it's just a matter of time, and everything will be the same.
You love the phone call arrangement. It's great! There aren't any awkward pauses at all. That's just you catching your breath after all the talking you did. You don't roll your eyes when he tells you he's changed, that he's getting his life together, that he's training to be a firefighter. Really. You don't. Because it's all true. And he's doing this all for you, not for him. He's doing it so he can come back. So everything can be right. And it will be right again, because this just doesn't happen to you.
So the visits stopped, so the phone calls stopped, so you're moving where he can't find you. So you haven't seen him in years, so all you have is memories, growing faded like old photographs, so you don't even know him anymore. So what?
It doesn't matter.
Because these things just don't happen to you.
Part Two, Anger: Hell Is Where You Are
You want to hit him. You want to see him again just so you can yell at him and hit him so hard he goes crashing to the ground. He doesn't care about you. He doesn't even think about you. He's got a new daughter to break like he broke you. He'll tell her he loves her; he'll make her think he'll always be there, and then he'll leave. Or maybe he won't. Maybe he only did that with you.
It's not because you weren't good enough, because you were. You were a great daughter. It was because he was a coward. A man who didn't try hard enough to be what he should have been.
As far as you're concerned all he is now is a bug on the bottom of your shoe. A bad memory you wish you could erase. You never want to see him again. Let him live his miserable life filled with guilt. He means nothing to you now. You don't need him.
You're glad he left. All was was, was poison. Maybe that's what his blood is. Poison. And now that same blood is running through your veins like the poison that it is. You wish he wasn't half your DNA. You wish she had chosen someone else, someone, anyone, other than him. Someone who didn't leave when things got hard. Someone who wasn't a complete loser. You would have been better off.
You don't think of him at all. Let him live with his demons of guilt taunting him. Let him live with your ghost whispering in his ear. You don't care.
He's not going to break you again.
That's what his new daughter is for.
Part Three, Bargaining: Die For These Sins
''I'll clean my room, I'll go to school, I won't talk back, I'll be the perfect daughter,'' you pray. Like it'll make a difference. You know by now that things will never go back to the way they were. Those days are gone. But you would still trade everything you own just to see him again.
Not only do you want to see him more than anything, you want to wake up and have all this be a dream. You'll sell your soul for that to happen. You know it's ridiculous. These things have already happened. You can't change things just by praying.
You would give your heart to hear his voice again, even if it is only one last time. You would give any one of your five senses just to know if he thinks of you at all. Even if it does hurt you more than it helps you. You would give your talent to know he's sorry, even if it doesn't mean much anymore. You would give your last breath just to know why he left, why he decides to leave you all alone.
You're not stupid, you know it won't happen, but you don't care. You're so desperate you'll try anything.
So you pray.
Part Four, Depression: Hang Limply On
Maybe he wasn't perfect. Maybe he wasn't a great guy. Maybe he had his flaws, but he was your Dad, and you still love him with everything you have.
You were young when he left and while you understood what was happening, you never really let yourself grieve, until you had all this time on your hands. Time that made you think.
Some days, there's this weight on your chest, and it gets so heavy that you can't breathe. Some days, moments go by when all you want to do is cry out, but the screams, the whispers of ''Daddy come home'' die in your throat and all you're left with is a bitter taste in your mouth and a lump in your throat.
You hide it all. You hide that you've been trying to find him on the computer. You hide how much it hurts. You hide everything. You say you're fine when really you're not. Until one night you break. Then the next thing you know you're in Mom's room, and she's half asleep, but she's listening. You're crying and asking over and over to know why until even your dog looks at you funny.
You don't remember what your Mom said that night, but you remember it helped. You still love him with everything you have; only now you know he loves you too.
Part Five, Acceptance: The Noise Of Stars
You're never going to understand why this happened, why he left. You're always going to wonder if he thinks of you, if he misses you. You're always going to wonder if he thinks of his only son. You're always going to miss him. You're always going to love him. But now you know this is the way it has to be.
If he hadn't left, you and everyone else involved would be damaged, at best, because of the relashonship he had with your mother and even with you.
Acceptance is the hardest stage to reach, some people get lost along the way, and you're glad you've finally gotten there, after all these years. You're glad you can remember him, with only a touch of sadness.
You've decided to stop looking for him. If it's meant to be he'll find you. When he's ready. You're positive you can manage to survive without him. After all, you've got a pretty amazing mother.
You've accepted that this has happened to you, that it's happened and there is nothing you can do about it. You've accepted that he probably won't be there to walk you down the aisle if and when you get married. You've accepted that his only son, your brother, has to grow up without a father. You've accepted alot of things, but still, every night you look at the stars and wonder if he's looking at the same ones.
Because his blood still runs through your veins, he's still your Dad, and you're still going to need him.
But for now, you're going to be just fine.
''It doesn't matter who my father was; it matters who I remember he was.''