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Authors: babydykecate (part 1) and finding_jay (part 2)
Dear Tucson in Trouble,
I'm sophomore at TIT, starting my second year with a new roommate. I met her mid-way through freshman year, and soon I found myself with a best friend. The truth is that I haven't ever had a best friend before, so I assumed that all these new emotions were part of the behavioral adjustments of a close friendship. Lately though, I find myself unsure if the nervous behavior she elicits from me might actually be something beyond social awkwardness. I think it might actually be an attraction of a sexual nature, and I have no idea how I should deal with this. I haven't had many sexual/romantic relationships with the opposite sex, so the thought of trying to navigate one with the same-sex is very daunting due to inexperience as well as the divergence from social expectations and norms. I also have no idea if she shares my desires, and thus am afraid of reading the situation wrong. I want to hang on to this close friendship that's so new and exciting, but I don't want to mislead myself or her when it comes to my own true desires.
A very frustrated Neuroscience major
Dear Frustrated Neuroscience Major,
Despite dealing with the brain, as your major would suggest, romance is all about the heart, and the heart is an uncontrolled experiment. These new emotions of yours are no doubt scary and daunting for you, as there are a lot of variables you need to consider. Does your roommate notice your feelings? How does she respond? If you reveal your intentions, how will this affect you relationship?
Given your practical nature, you can try approaching your roommate as you would a test subject. Do you have any variables (i.e. interests) in common? Are there any variables you would perhaps be interested in? Don't be afraid to expand your friendship beyond what you are both comfortable with. Try approaching her with more romantic outings or 'dates'. There's no need to be blunt with your true emotions, especially if you are currently rooming together, as that can lead to unnecessary awkwardness. Study her responses when you suggest you two should go out on a sunset picnic again, or a stroll near Lake Havasu. Analyse her responses as you would experiment results, but know in this case your heart will take precedence over your mind.
If she knows you well enough, then she may have already guessed what your intentions are- in which case, her answers are already printed, bound and waiting for your grade.