I do not own Bones or Coldplay. Part one of two. Enjoy.
"Where do we go to draw the line?
I've gotta say I wasted all your time, oh honey honey.
Where do I go to fall from grace?
God put a smile upon your face."
~ God Put A Smile Upon Your Face by Coldplay
His Grace For Her
Anyone who knows the pair knows they bicker. Whether about marriage, his romantic entanglements, religion, or a case-related decision, the two constantly have an undercurrent of disagreement.
Whenever she says she does not believe in marriage, that it is simply an archaic and antiquated ritual that no longer fits with modern times, he feels a thrust of pain in his abdomen. It is almost as if she does not believe in him, does not believe that they could be so much more.
Someday, though, he will persuade her. Maybe not on marriage, but at least a similar relationship without such a daunting title—a monogamous relationship with one other person for the rest of time. While he may not have changed her mind yet, she has changed his. If she could only promise to be with no one but him for the rest of their life, he would graciously take it.
Whenever she pokes and prods around into his romantic involvement with other women, a small part of him always hopes it is because the thought of him with another woman irks her. He does not mean it maliciously, as a medium of payback, but he hopes it means she has feelings, something, towards him. Even if it is not the same magnitude as his feelings for her, he always hopes.
Regardless of that hope, though, he knows it is the scientist within her, the squint trying to educate herself on modern-human behavior. He often tries to explain feelings to her, sometimes with examples of how he "feels" towards other women and, other times, with examples of how he feels about her.
While he does not enjoy hearing her thoughts on marriage, especially with the added low blows in her explanations, he has learned to take her comments. As a gentleman, he does not give out details of his relationships, but to win her over, he is plenty willing to explain love to her as much as love can be explained. Religion, though, he is not sure they can ever compromise on.
They argue about existence and faith. She has faith, but only in him, and he wants her to have faith in God, as he does. He cannot imagine any type of heaven without her in it. She admitted to believing in signs, which, for an empiricist as driven by evidence as she is, is a huge feat. But, no matter how much he may try to explain the concept, her definition of faith will always be skewed.
She had faith in him when she was buried alive because he had previously proven to her that he could take care of her. Faith involves blind trust, and she did not trust him blindly. He was given opportunities to show her, but she does not give the same to God. For all of these reasons, including her naivety on the subject, they disagree.
Even through all of their disagreements, including the ones they fail to compromise on, he forgives her. He forgives her partially as a way to demonstrate his religious beliefs to her. Grace, unconditional forgiveness for a mistake without imposing judgment or punishment, is as important as love and honesty. Other than for religious reasons, he assures himself that therapy taught him an important lesson: going into the field together on bad terms never ends ideally. (Well, that and sometimes she is dead on when she says psychology is a soft science). But, more than biblical and psychological reasons, he shows her grace because she deserves it and he loves her.
She is a child, a fledgling struggling to understand a world other than the one that broke her then growing heart. He knows that she speaks anthropologically and reasonably to mask the questions she has, to disguise her changing opinions and uncertainty in her answers. He knows she is curious because she truly does not understand, and he could never begrudge someone of figuring things out, even if her way about it is clumsy and occasionally a bit too overt and strong-headed. He mostly fields her religious inquiries because her curiosity shows the consideration of change.
While they may argue and she often greatly angers him, he shows her grace because he loves her and only wants to help her find herself and the answer to all of life's questions. As long as she is curious, she will need him. So he shows her grace to keep her around, hopefully long enough to complete her transformation and for his opportunity to arrive.