Wispr
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Joined 03-22-04, id: 558797, Profile Updated: 08-12-13

05/15/2013

Hey Everyone,

Sorry for the long absence but between the huge amount of flames and what is happening to my friend (Read below) my depression really made a strong comeback. But with the help and support of friend and family, plus a bit of counseling now. I'm looking at starting to write once more, though I wont be posting here but over at Passion & Perfection.

Sadly because of the flames and not wanting to receive reviews from a person who believes raping lesbians is a act of love I wont be accepting reviews at all. I feel bad about this for I so enjoyed both the constructive criticism and some damn good story ideas reviewers have gifted me with in the past.

Unfortunately due to past events I decide not to repost what I have written in the past, though I will be reusing some scenes I'm going to rewrite everything basically from scratch. Hopefully the second time around will be better...

Take care...

Wispr


My thoughts and prayers goes out to a good friend of mine who use to write wonderful and heartfelt femslash stories that showed love between two women base on compassion and honesty. But now she is being forced by a love one to write pro lesbian rape stories, stories that try to make sexual predation/rape of lesbians as a act of love.

To my friend I'm so sorry I wasn't strong enough to endure watching you slowly getting torn down, but being so powerless to help you brought back my depression with a terrible vengeance and for my own peace of mind I had to cut all ties. I do so hope someday you find the courage and safety to take back control of both your stories and most importantly your life. You are a kind and gentle person, I can't imagine the pain you must be going through telling your readers that sexual predation/rape is OK.


How to Write a Book – Easily, Passionately, Skillfully … Starting Now!

This is an amazing site dedicating to helping the novice author. The tips and hints are given in an upbeat and clear manner. I highly recommend taking a look... http://www.how-to-write-a-book-now.com/index.html


Women in Refrigerators: The Mistreatment of Female Characters in Comics

I highly recommend checking out these two websites... puts a new perspective on what is being done to Willow's character by Joss starting at the end of season 6... Tara's death, Willow being victimized by Kennedy in season 7 and then what has happen to Willow in season 8 comics.

http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=121263622399

http://www.unheardtaunts.com/wir/

Also take a look at this link over at the Kitten Board...The Lesbian Cliche FAQ


My View of Kennedy...

From the very first I saw her as a female version of Parker Abrams, plus someone I knew who was a victim of an abuser said that Kennedy's personality reminded her of the abuser. So before starting my story "The Key Unlocking a Broken Heart" I did some research into warning signs of abusive behavior. I wanted to make sure I wasn't letting my dislike of Kennedy's character make me see her in a worst way then she already was. Well I found out though she does exhibit some abusive warning signs, when it came to the warning signs of a sexual predator she's got 9 out of 13.

Here's the list...

"Tips on Spotting a Sexual Predator"

Numbers in bold are the sexual predator traits Kennedy exhibits in the first two episodes she appears in.

1. Often offend where they won't get caught — when they have misdirected people's attention.

2. Often married or in relationships.

3. Offend when the victim is handy.

4. Not always strangers, often family members, family friends and neighbors.

5. Most attracted to adults.

6. Good manipulators (seduction is an integral part).

7. Overly self-indulgent.

8. Arrogant.

9. Sexualize, objectify women.

10. Users of various kinds of pornography.

11. Typically known as rationalizers, intellectualizers, justifiers.

12. Great helpers — are there to lend a helping hand — prey on people in need, when they can insinuate themselves in your life.

13. Use stressful and vulnerable situations to get in — they find a need they can fill and they use that to get next to the victim.

Below is references to the first two episodes that have Kennedy beginning "grooming" Willow.

"Grooming" refers to actions deliberately undertaken with the aim of befriending and establishing an emotional connection with the intended victim, in order to lower the victim's inhibitions in preparation for sexual activity, or exploitation.

Warning Signs of Grooming:

Giving compliments - excessive

Being affectionate with the victim – hugging, holding hands, rubbing back, kissing then starts becoming more forceful with intended victim. Rushes victim into sexual intercourse.

Seeking vulnerable victims that are needy emotionally. This last fits Willow's character in season 7 to a "T".

Episode 10, "Bring On the Night"

Start about 16 minutes in, K makes her first hit on Willow, going so far to manipulate Willow into letting her make the sleeping arrangements and then letting Willow know she expects Willow to sleep with her in a offhanded way. Thus showing that K is both manipulative and knows about Willow being gay. You can tell Willow is very unnerved by it.

Episode 11, "Showtime"

3:00 minutes in K trying to get Willow in bed and it's very obvious Willow dosen't like the attention. K also "/Accidentally"/ lets drops she comes from a very well to do family. This scenes once again shows how manipulative K is, she using Willow being uncomfortable sleeping to get her into bed with her, This in itself isn't bad but takes on a more sinister aspect when you take into account that K manipulative Willow into letting her make the sleeping arrangements thus showing that she plans to force Willow into bed.

25:00 minutes in K shows that she has a interest in Willow's powers and beginning to try to build a wall between Willow and friends by first acting supportive of Willow using magic and then /at first/ being supportive of Buffy then instantly putting Buffy on the spot thus trying to create tension between Buffy and the rest.

The rest of the season continues along the same vein, even in the season 8 comics Kennedy still shows the same behavior patterns. Plus in the comics it's revealed that Kennedy was only interested in Willow due to her so called Superhero status.

After researching that and finding what I found needless to say I didn't feel like I was "bashing" Kennedy in my story by making her both an abuser and sexual predator.

Lets just say after I find it so very sickening how people will use Kennedy's successful sexual predation of Willow as a reason to write what amounts to pro-rape BTVS stories. And I feel horrible for my friend who is forced by her husband to write such stories.


I highly recommend the fan fiction author Leonhart17, she's able to tweak canon in such a way that she was able to preserve Willow’s and Tara’s relationship in both a wonderful and believable manner. And her writing style is so imaginative and vivid that it really brings all of the Buffy characters to life. You can find her awesome stories here… http://www.fanfiction.net/u/561622/Leonhart17

Other femslash fan-fiction writers I highly recommend...

Here are two writers that don't build up wonderful loving lesbian couples just to destroy them because they hate happy couples or people in general. Yes they do put the couples through hell, but the couples come out the stronger for it. These two writers show us that with love and hope a couple can get through hell and high water... together.

G.L. Dartt... She writes Captain Janeway/Seven of Nine pairing among others, and as a huge Voyager series posted on her site. Gina has also published several novels which gives you an idea just how good her writing is. Though her writing of fan fiction as slowed some she still is posting so please take a look and especially let her know what you think of her amazing writing... Novel Expectations

Melissa Good... She writes Xena/Gabrielle pairing fan fiction stories, both canon and uber, and also has actually written several episodes for the Xena TV show itself. Add in the fact she's an accomplish book author and you got some awesome and outstanding stories just waiting for you to read. Best of all, she's still writing! Merwolf's Cave